Receiving coaching from a competent and skilled life coach often changes people in profound and uplifting ways; reshaping their perspective on many things, including what is possible, and how it’s possible. It equips the client with the necessary tools, strategy, vision, and self-confidence, to obtain the life they seek to create.
Simply by having a coach in one’s life and chatting with him or her on a regular basis can produce immense value and results. You don’t even have to work particularly hard either to notice the great benefits that coaching brings forthwith, because the synergy that occurs as a result of the coach-client relationship is what makes the biggest difference to any well-motivated client. That being said, however, there are certain ways for the client to maximise the value received from coaching even further. Below are 3 such ways for you to get even more value from your coaching sessions.
1. Talk about what is happening for you in that moment
Always remember that in a session you can focus on whatever you want. Sometimes, as coaching proceeds onwards, a client may feel somewhat compelled to focus only on certain things relating to their original goals and vision, because they feel this is the best way to get the most out of a session. Consequently, they may feel talking about other things, such as their needs, a problem they may be facing, or an aspect about themselves that they’ve newly discovered and want to improve, will not be so useful to bring up. I would disagree here. While it is most certainly important to remain consistent in things, this should not be interpreted as having to focus rigidly on an agreed upon task or strategy, while disregarding what else might be happening outside the coaching session, and/or inside yourself. Goals can, and often do, change. And quite often for the better. But it is important that you are open and honest with yourself, and with your coach during a session. Feel free to bring up what is happening for you in the here and now. And if a detour then manifests in your original plan as a result, then enjoy the detour J
2. Focus on how you feel and want to feel, and not just on the results you want to produce
Oftentimes during coaching sessions, clients feel a need to focus the time on how to produce more tangible results, be that financially related, work related, and so on. This is, of course, highly relevant. However, one should not forget the intangibles either, such as feeling genuinely happier, more satisfied, more at peace, and more inspired. (Tangible) Results are important, very important, but the feelings you experience during your day are equally important. It can be easy to get wrapped up in our thoughts as we calculate probable outcomes, contemplate possible strategies, and fantasise on potential outcomes. That’s all well and good, but it’s all head stuff. And you are more than your mind – you are your body too. So try aim for a balance. Try not always be in your head. Come into your body too. Enjoy the feelings. Let these feelings excite and inspire you.
Remember: Seeing tangible results is a great thing, but being in tune with your feelings is also a great thing. So make a conscious effort to enjoy both.
3. “Being coached” doesn’t just happen during sessions
A typical coaching session tends to last for approximately 60 minutes, however, there are more than 10, 000 minutes in a 7-day week. Coaching is a very powerful tool. What you discuss with your coach during sessions will tend to resonate with you during the week. The ideas that have been discussed will start to seed and grow between sessions. To accelerate this process all you need to do is consciously take stock in your mind of anything that was discussed during a session, which struck a deep chord within you; something that can be applied in that moment, whether that’s a newly equipped skill or a shift in perspective. Be open to the positive change. Consciously embrace the positive change. You can do this “conscious stock taking” anytime. Do it between sessions and watch the seeds grow and bear fruit.